You be you, Jay Cutler.
Former Broncos, Bears and Dolphins QB Jay Cutler has been in the news lately for a very personal reason – his seven-year marriage with Kristin Cavallari is coming to an end as the couple are getting a divorce.
If you’ve ever been through a divorce or know somebody who has, you know these things are not easy to go through and can take years of work to get through.
So with that being said I’m not going to try to get into the specifics of their relationship because I don’t know anything about those. And I respect the process they are embarking on, because it is not a great thing to go through.
But the New York Post’s Page Six column quoted an anonymous source as saying that Cavallari had grown tired of Cutler being “unmotivated” and “lazy.” If you’ve been in a relationship you know sometimes that can happen to you are your significant other. People change, life gets hard or different and you suddenly find yourself in a spot in your relationship that you didn’t see happening at the start.
And you know what? That’s OK. If the reports of what Cavallari is alleged to have said are true, it’s OK for Cutler to be lazy and unmotivated right now at this stage of his life. Think about all he’s done – he made over $120 million playing football, which he did so while dealing with type 1 diabetes, and he faced some pretty harsh scrutiny basically every day of his football career.
That’s a lot and must have been pretty exhausting.
Now he lives on a farm in Tennessee and just wants to chill on the couch or whatever?
Yeah, I’d be the same way!
We live in a time now more than ever were everybody seems to be in a competition with each other on how much they can get done. A trip through Instagram can make my feel pretty crappy about yourself when you see how much everyone else is doing with their lives each day, even during a quarantine. Social media can make it seem like everyone is working out all the time, or cooking extravagant meals every night, or being incredible parents every waking second of the day, when in reality we know that’s not true. Still, that can be really hard to see when you’re endlessly scrolling at night while eating a big bowl of pasta on the couch (or so I’ve been told, haha).
Now more than ever we need to be easier on ourselves and allow ourselves to be comfortable with who we are and what we do. If Cutler wants to be lazy or chill, let that laziness happen. If he doesn’t want to rush out and get a broadcasting job with Fox Sports or ESPN, he doesn’t have to go out and get that job. He’s already put in a ton of work and made sacrifices over the years to be a successful quarterback in the NFL. That is something that isn’t easy to do in life. Being lazy must feel pretty darn nice for him.
And you know what? Not all relationships have to last. That’s OK, too. If Cavallari feels she’s not getting what she wants out of this relationship then it’s totally fine to move on, though it is a rough thing to go through. She has to do what’s best for her, too.
So yeah, to Jay Cutler I would say keep being Jay Cutler, because sometimes you just gotta be you.
Which is perfectly fine and perfectly healthy.
