DEAR DEIDRE: SEX with my young lover is so much better than with my husband but I know that I’m playing with fire.
We all work at an airport and I have to admit the risk is also one of the thrills.
I am 44 and my husband is 46. We have been married for 20 years and have two sons, aged 16 and 14.
My husband seems to have lost interest in me over the last two years, which I’ve always put down to stress.
He’s a manager for a big airline and has had to make a lot of cutbacks recently.
He doesn’t enjoy his job any more and seems constantly miserable.
Our sex life is pretty much non-existent and even when we do have make love it is dull and predictable.
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I work as part of the security team and when a colleague started flirting with me I soon realised how much I had missed male attention.
He is very fit and reminded me of my husband when he was a lot younger.
My lover is 29. One night we left together and were sharing a lift to the car park.
In the lift he told me to call him if I was ever lonely.
A week later I did exactly that and he came straight around. I offered him a drink but we both knew what he was there for.
The sex was amazing. He was so physical and strong.
We have since been meeting for sex every week. He’s made my life feel exciting again.
I know it is wrong but my lover makes me feel so sexy again.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Wake up before you tear your life apart.
You and your lover are both enjoying the sex but one day your husband will catch you out.
It is not just your husband who will be hurt. How do you think your sons will react?
They may lose all respect for you.
Long-term relationships can become boring and mundane but think back to what attracted you to your husband in the first place.
He sounds really low, but if you spend time talking to and supporting him, you can start to get back the man you fell in love with.
Depression can have a destructive effect on relationships.
It would be worth considering couple therapy to help you strengthen your marriage and revive your sex life.
You can arrange this via tavistockrelationships.org.
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