DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband never lifts a finger to help around the house or with our three children.
He says he works all day so his work is done. I’m 38 and my husband’s 40. We’ve been together for 18 years.
I’m exhausted and feel like a single parent. How can I be a good mother while I’m slowly suffocating in my relationship?
I know what I need to do but I don’t have the courage for it.
My kids deserve a better life and I feel so guilty thinking my weakness is holding them back.
How can we set a good example when all we do is fight?
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We never do anything together as a family and I’m the only one who tries to organise days out.
Even then my husband does his best to sabotage my efforts by saying everything is too expensive, or he gets up so late there is hardly any point in going.
Our kids – aged 14, 12 and ten – end up spending all day on their phones.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is frustrating living with anyone who won’t pull their weight. He may have traditional views of the roles within marriage.
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