DEAR DEIDRE: A TAROT reading revealed that my boyfriend has been having an affair, and I found evidence on his phone.
I am 52, he is 56 and it seems he’s been sleeping with this woman for most of our five-year relationship, and beforehand too.
He is always on his mobile and rarely leaves it lying around, and I became suspicious.
So I decided to have a tarot reading to see if I could find out what was going on. It said there was another woman in his life.
I tried to remain open-minded, thinking the cards can’t always be right. So I kept this information to myself. But a few months later I finally got to look at his phone.
There was a text from another woman.
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She had sent him her address and asked when he would be going over to see her.
I couldn’t believe what I was seeing but once I calmed down I confronted my boyfriend.
He just laughed and said she’d obviously got the wrong number.
But then this woman messaged my daughter on Facebook.
She said my boyfriend had been in an intimate relationship with her for ten years and had only stopped seeing her in the last year.
She even sent photographs of the two of them together.
I can’t understand how he could be in this intimate relationship, when he was also with me.
Now I feel that I should just dump him and start again, because I no longer trust him.
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DEIDRE SAYS: No wonder.
Tell him he has to start telling the truth if he wants to stay with you.
He must work at helping you to trust him. Otherwise I’m afraid there is no future for the two of you as a couple.
If you decide to give him another chance, you will have to be prepared to take a leap of faith.
I understand that is a tall order and you are likely to need help from a counsellor if you are to release all that anger safely.
There are many questions to be answered.
He must have known one day the cat would be let out of the bag, and you would discover he was not the man he pretended to be.
Ideally, get counselling together, through tavistockrelationships.org.
My support pack Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help.
