PAYING for sex used to be thought of as something only men would do, but it is more and more likely to be a woman handing over the cash.
New films How To Please A Woman – where a male cleaning company offers “extras” on the side – and Good Luck To You, Leo Grande – which sees Emma Thompson play a widow hiring an escort – are bang on trend, as male escort services are booming.
As more women book encounters to satisfy their desires, Ross*, a 36-year-old escort in London, reveals what his job entails . . .
IT might be the start of another working week for everyone else, but Mondays tend to be quiet for me.
I don’t think you’d pick me out as the male escort in a room. People think I’d be super buff and tanned, but I’d probably give myself 7/10.
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I’m no Magic Mike, but I work out, look approachable and friendly — and women seem to like that.
It helps that I’m brilliant in bed, too.
I get most of my work through an agency — and today I receive two bookings for later in the week.
I pay a monthly fee to put my details on the agency site. I won’t show my face online but will provide full frontal pictures for clients on request.
I don’t want to be recognised online as who knows what I’ll end up doing in the future.
I’m an actor by profession, but it’s never really taken off for me.
I CHARGE £150 an hour for in-person bookings, or £1 a minute for video dates on Zoom or WhatsApp.
I average two or three face-to- face jobs a week.
Tonight I’m seeing Katy, a regular, which is nice as I already know what she likes.
Clients rarely tell me their ages but I’d guess Katy is late forties.
Most of my clients are around that age, rarely younger, although one was in her twenties and the oldest in her sixties.
Tonight’s meet will be in a central London hotel. I dress to look smart and professional.
Sometimes I’ll get requests for specific outfits, like a navy suit or a fitted white T-shirt, but I’ve never had anything seedy.
You’d be surprised how “normal” most women want the encounter to be.
When it comes to undies I stick to classic tight briefs, which I’ve never had any complaints about.
I usually take a couple of props with me too, like a vibrator, some ties, oils and lubrication.
A massage is a good way to start touching if the woman is nervous, which first-timers often are.
Katy and I chat, then we have sex, very slowly, in the missionary position, her request. I always use a condom.
I GOT into escorting by accident when talking to a trainer at my gym in 2018.
He told me he did it to top up earnings and then how much he made, which was far more than I did at my part-time, zero-hours gig.
I’m straight and love sex with women so decided to give it a go, as it meant I could still get to my acting auditions, too.
My first job was a lady around 50 who wanted me to use my hands to bring her to orgasm.
I was terrified but she seemed happy.
Luckily I’ve been single the whole time.
I don’t think a girlfriend would accept me doing this.
My biggest worry is clients developing unwanted feelings for me and confusing our encounters for a real relationship.
It has happened and if it escalates now I’ll just block them.
I genuinely like a lot of my clients, but there’s no love involved.
THIS afternoon I saw Marie.
I was her 57th birthday present to herself.
The biggest difference with older women is that most are incredibly direct.
Marie wanted me to watch her solo play then join in.
I have one regular who likes me to spank her and another likes sex by windows.
Other clients just want to lie back and do nothing.
There’s also the women who don’t know what they want or have lost confidence after a break-up and I help them find their mojo again.
I find those jobs really satisfying — not giving up until she gets there and seeing a woman completely losing control.
Then I get paid for it. That’s good for the ego.
SOME women just want my company.
One Friday a month I’ll see Annabel, who is probably only ten years older than me.
She’s lonely and wealthy and it’s about the “boyfriend” experience for her.
We always go for dinner at the big-name restaurant she used to go to with her ex-husband.
She gets dressed up, we have champagne and flirt.
At the end I kiss her goodbye on the cheek.
But nothing sexual ever happens.
LUNCH out with my family before a job tonight.
Although it’s all legal, my parents have no idea what I do.
Tonight’s new client, Lisa, is too busy to date and wants no-hassle fun.
She is sick of men on apps sending d**k pics. I hear that a lot.
We order room service and watch some porn then copy it.
NO bookings today. I might be single but the main thing I’ve learnt about women from escorting is how important it is to listen to them.
Sex isn’t everything, even when someone is paying for it.
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So many times I come away from an appointment feeling more like a therapist than an escort.
Maybe that’s what I’ll end up doing next.
*Name has been changed.
