DEAR DEIDRE: A GUY I met online has ghosted me. Should I show up at his work?
I’m a gay guy of 23. I met him on a dating app a couple of months ago and we were soon messaging every day.
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He’s 25. We had so much in common and I’ve never felt so relaxed talking to someone.
We discussed meeting up and had a plan to get together for a weekend.
Suddenly the texting stopped.
There was utter silence and I’ve not heard from him for more than a week.
I feel devastated and completely lost.
I want to make sure he knows I care for him.
I know where he works so should I go there or just move on?
DEIDRE SAYS: It would be better for you to move on.
This is a hard lesson learned but perhaps this guy wasn’t being honest with you.
Maybe he has commitment issues or he might not have told family and friends he is gay.
Pitching up at his work won’t change anything other than causing him embarrassment.
He is unlikely to run back into your arms.
My e-leaflet Love Online can help save you from getting into this sort of situation again.
