DEAR DEIDRE: BEREAVEMENT counselling has been suggested by my doctor but I am petrified.
My dad died suddenly a year ago. He went upstairs after lunch for his nap.
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I went to check on him and found him dead.
I am 40 and I had been caring for Mum since before he died.
A month ago, she also died unexpectedly. I can’t eat or sleep and I don’t want to get up each day.
I miss Mum so much as she was my best friend. I have started having panic attacks when I go to the shops. My husband is brilliant but I just want my mum back.
DEIDRE SAYS: Having a double bereavement like that is bound to affect you.
Don’t be terrified of the idea of counselling. I realise you are scared of revisiting those memories but you will be doing so with support.
My e-leaflet Coping With Panic Attacks explains how you can learn to let stressful feelings wash over you and drain away.
Cruse bereavement care will help you explore your grief (cruse.org.uk 0808 808 1677).
