DEAR DEIDRE: MY fiancée has admitted to having feelings for my brother. I love her but don’t think I can get over this.
We have been together for two years. The other night she got emotional and said she had something to tell me.
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She said she has feelings for my brother and has done ever since we got together. I think he feels the same. He’s single.
I am 24, she is 23 and my brother is 27. She says nothing has gone on but the news has floored me.
She insists I am still the one for her but I just want to end it and start afresh with someone who wants to be with me.
I don’t think I can trust her any more. My brother has a tattoo on his arm and she has tried to get me to have one just like his.
Now it feels like she has been trying to make me look like him.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is no wonder you feel so devastated. You and your fiancée have to do some serious talking.
We can’t help who we fall for but she must feel strongly for him for the attraction to have lasted all this time and to decide to confess this.
Tell her you two must take a break while you both decide whether your relationship can survive this.
You can’t marry her feeling second-best.
