DEAR DEIDRE: I LIKE a guy I met online but there is a red flag – on our first date he told me about his dysfunctional past relationships. I don’t want to become his emotional rescuer. I am 24, he is 23. At first we chatted online for a while, then we arranged to meet in […]
DEAR DEIDRE: I LIKE a guy I met online but there is a red flag – on our first date he told me about his dysfunctional past relationships.
I don’t want to become his emotional rescuer.
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I am 24, he is 23. At first we chatted online for a while, then we arranged to meet in a local pub.
We had a laugh and realised we had loads in common. Then he got serious and told me about being rejected by his exes and other people.
He also admitted he suffers with anxiety – as do I.
All his talk has put me off, if I am honest.
I do like him but I prefer to make a fresh start and create new memories.
I don’t want to be used by someone who is lonely.
DEIDRE SAYS: Do not ignore your gut instinct.
He perhaps thought being honest with you from the start was best, but it could also be that his past rejection makes him needy.
And you recognise that because it is familiar to you.
If you like him, get to know him a bit better and make it clear what you want from a relationship.
Only time will tell if you are not on the same page.
