DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH he enjoys it when he is on the receiving end, my boyfriend doesn’t want to do oral sex with me. He likes me giving him oral but says he had a bad experience when he did it once for his ex-girlfriend. I’m 23 and my boyfriend is 25. We have been together for […]
DEAR DEIDRE: ALTHOUGH he enjoys it when he is on the receiving end, my boyfriend doesn’t want to do oral sex with me.
He likes me giving him oral but says he had a bad experience when he did it once for his ex-girlfriend.
I’m 23 and my boyfriend is 25. We have been together for two years and have a good relationship apart from this.
I feel as though our sex life is becoming quite boring.
I want to spice it up by trying different things.
How can I convince him to at least try?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Nobody should be pressured into doing anything sexual they don’t want to but ask him what went wrong with his ex.
It may be something you can reassure him about and it must feel very unfair when he enjoys you giving him oral but he won’t reciprocate.
My e-leaflet Guide To Oral Sex can help you reassure him. If he’s adamant, 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex can give you lots of other ideas.