DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY evening my partner seems distant and distracted, to the point he goes into a different room to me. I’m a 26-year-old guy and my boyfriend is 28. We met online two years ago and after a few weeks arranged to see each other at a hotel. It wasn’t meant to be anything serious […]
DEAR DEIDRE: EVERY evening my partner seems distant and distracted, to the point he goes into a different room to me.
I’m a 26-year-old guy and my boyfriend is 28.
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We met online two years ago and after a few weeks arranged to see each other at a hotel. It wasn’t meant to be anything serious and we went our separate ways.
He messaged a few weeks later asking to see me again.
We had a few dates and a weekend away, deciding to give things a real go. I moved in with him and we’ve talked about buying a flat together.
We have a cat, so we have our very own little family. Both of us have started new jobs, which are stressful.
Clearly there is something wrong but I don’t know how to get him to talk to me.
DEIDRE SAYS: All sorts of issues are thrown up when you start living together. Plus, you’ve both just started stressful new jobs.
Tell your boyfriend you can see he is feeling pressured.
Ask what you can do or what changes you can make that would ease the strain for him. Spend time out with your own interests and friends rather than stewing.
