DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER four years of being alone I found my soulmate. Then she discovered my old stash of porn so I’m down on the sofa sleeping alone.
It was going so well. She Is 33 and I’m 35. We have the same interests and sense of humour. I was pinching myself thinking how lucky I’d got.
Those porn mags were nothing weird or sinister, just sexy pics of beautiful girls.
There was a male sex toy as well that I used now and then.
My girlfriend found the box in the garage and wanted to know why I used porn when I had a loving partner.
I’ve not looked at porn since the day we met but now she won’t talk to me or let me into our bed.
DEIDRE SAYS: This was bad luck and you did nothing wrong.
Give her some time to calm down then tell her again you are not looking at porn any more and she has nothing to worry about.
If she still won’t listen, write her a letter and send her some flowers.
My leaflet Pornography Worries may help you explain.
If not, then I would say she was looking for a reason to break up with you.
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