DEAR DEIDRE: MY so-called friend of 30 years didn’t visit me once when I was in hospital for three weeks and ended up in intensive care. I’ve always been there for her and I feel so used. We are both women of 45. She is single but I have a boyfriend. I broke my leg […]
DEAR DEIDRE: MY so-called friend of 30 years didn’t visit me once when I was in hospital for three weeks and ended up in intensive care. I’ve always been there for her and I feel so used.
We are both women of 45. She is single but I have a boyfriend.
I broke my leg and then the wound got infected post-surgery. I was very poorly though the hospital staff were fantastic.
I kept my friend posted and she promised to visit but she never showed up.
My boyfriend was kindness itself while I was ill and arranged to take me to his friend’s villa in Italy for a holiday. He invited my friend and her daughter to come and they accepted.
She wanted me to drive her to the airport but I am still not allowed to drive again.
Now we are two weeks away from the holiday and she has still not paid her share. I texted her to remind her and she’s texted back that she is not going. She is refusing to pay her share and my boyfriend is furious. She is not answering calls or tests.
After so many years of friendship, I feel so let down and used. It confirms my suspicion that I do not matter to her.
DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds as though yours was a very one-way friendship and she simply hasn’t the inner resources to be supportive to anyone else. Unless you want endlessly to be the giving one, best call time.
Concentrate on enjoying what you share with your boyfriend and do not let thoughts of her spoil anything more. On the money front you could tell her you will get legal advice if she does not pay up but, unless you had a written agreement, I’m afraid there is not much you can do.
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