DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my fiancé but his children detest me. We are getting married next year and everything is great apart from them.
I am 24 and my fiancé is 50. His daughters are 28 and 29. Both have kids and relationships of their own, but they hate us being together.
They moan about how much he is spending on our wedding even though I work and am paying my share.
They all spent the half-term week together with his grandchildren and didn’t invite me.
I was upset and they said I had ruined the week because their dad was worried about me.
I have stopped visiting them – I cannot bear their comments. But I hate putting my fiancé in the middle.
DEIDRE SAYS: He is the one to handle his children. He needs to tell them he loves them but that your wedding is going ahead and he would be much happier if they would accept that.
My e-leaflet on Standing Up For Yourself will help.
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