Sophie Turner is getting real and she’s getting raw. It certainly seems like no topic of conversation was off the table when she sat down with British Vogue for her June cover interview. Certainly not her family planning.
Turner shares two young daughters — Willa and Delphine — with her estranged husband Joe Jonas. And she told the outlet that at the time she found out she was pregnant with Willa, she wasn’t even sure motherhood was what she wanted. She found out while on a retreat in Bali and sat on the information for a week. “Thankfully there were therapists there to help me talk things through,” she said.
“I remember throwing the pregnancy test at him, saying ‘What do you think we should do? Do you think we should have it?’ When you’re in your early 20s, life is so frivolous. At that point, I really didn’t know if I wanted to be a mother,” the Game of Thrones alum admitted.
Can we just pause and say how impressed we are with Turner for being so brave and admitting that? So many people find themselves feeling that way but feel scared to admit that they might not want to be a mom. And how could they not be scared? Especially when there are rogue a—holes like Kansas City Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker running around saying women’s lives begin once they fill their “vocation” as a wife and a mother? *Clenches fists in anger*
“But something changed in me that day,” Turner continued. “I just knew I had to have her.”
And though Willa, who was born in 2020, was a surprise, her little sister was definitely planned. “Because my ex and I travel so much, I wanted Willa to have a sibling,” Turner explained. “I wanted them to have each other. They’re so much fun, total girlie girls and absolute rays of sunshine in my life.”
But Turner’s life hasn’t been all sunshine this past year. In September, Jonas filed for divorce after four years of marriage. Though they claimed it was a mutual decision, Turner has gotten a whole lot of heat. There were a lot of reports early on that alleged she was a neglectful partier while Jonas was Father of the Year.
“It hurt because I really do completely torture myself over every move I make as a mother — mum guilt is so real!” she continued. “I just kept having to say to myself, ‘None of this is true. You are a good mum and you’ve never been a partier.’”
And when you think of that “torture” and the “mum guilt” and the nonstop judgment that mothers undoubtedly face more than fathers do, we can absolutely understand (even if Butker doesn’t) why there was a time when Turner wasn’t certain that she wanted to open herself up to that.
