What Do Queer Women Actually Do When They Have Sex?
We sent out a survey asking queer ladies about the last time they had sex — so you can stop asking us how it works now.
Maritsa Patrinos
Does "sex" exclusively mean penetration? What's the defining act, if there is one? In search of answers, BuzzFeed anonymously surveyed gay, bi, and trans women asking them to honestly and openly describe their last sexual encounter — however they define it.
Here's what they told us:
"My girlfriend and I bought a strap on to use for the first time and she insisted she use it on me first. We spent over two hours trying to figure out how 'straight sex' works and then just gave up and used it as a dildo. At one point we got so defeated that she just laid on top of me and wiggled around; that was the farthest we got."
18/queer
"My fiancee and I were celebrating our third anniversary as a couple. We'd had a very good date night at a nice little local restaurant. We got home and things were getting pretty heavy and we proceeded up to the bedroom. I was doing my thing, just the way she likes it, when she suddenly tells me to stop and that she's not feeling it. I say OK and I try to ask her what's wrong. This has been an ongoing problem with her and her almost nonexistent sex drive. She doesn't have any answers so I just cuddle up next to her and try to go to sleep, frustrated. We're working on it.
33/Lesbian