Dear Abby: Stepdaughter wants me to leave house during holiday

When she visits home, she stays only with her mom.

Last summer, Allen and I decided to buy a house together, found the perfect one, and went to make an offer when Jen stepped in and said if we lived together before August, after she returned to school, she wouldn’t have anything to do with him.

[...] we have a house together, and Jen said she wants to spend time on Thanksgiving here at the house without me or my kids.

Do I leave my house for a few hours on Thanksgiving, or tell her she’s welcome but the kids and I are staying in our own home?

Does he plan to allow his daughter to control both of you once you are married?

Dear Abby: I’m 17, and a friend of mine who lives out of state, “Jane,” has just told me she has dissociative identity disorder (formerly known as multiple personality disorder).

Do you know where I can find help for dealing with a person afflicted by this?

If your friend’s psychiatrist doesn’t know that she has dissociative identity disorder, I would hesitate to accept her self-diagnosis, and so should you.

The kindest thing you can do for her would be to urge her to fully disclose any symptoms she’s been experiencing to her doctor, because if what you have written is accurate, she has not been doing that.