Dear Abby: Adopted child’s grandparents want contact
Both birth parents had issues with drug abuse, and our daughter was born with drug issues, too.
A few years later we were contacted via the adoption agency by the paternal birth grandparents.
The next year, the birth grandparents sent a letter saying they would like more contact, including visits.
The birth father, who now is back in jail, never contacted us and, as far as we know, does not want any contact.
The adoption agency says they will pass on information between us, but doesn’t have any advice on what we should do.
Because your daughter’s birth parents are addicts, it is very important for her to understand that she may have a genetic tendency toward addiction herself.
If she would like to locate her birth family when she is an adult, tell her you will help her then.
There is no way to diplomatically tell a person wearing a hairpiece that she (or he) is fooling no one or that it’s looking ratty.