A MAN has revealed that he caught his wife cheating on him and rather than confront the situation, he secretly recorded it.
The father explained that after dropping his children at his parents house so he and his wife could have a child-free date night, he was horrified when he returned home to discover his wife’s infidelity.
Clearly stunned by what he saw, the man stood silently in his home gathering evidence.
Keen to open up on what happened, the anonymous man took to social media to share his story, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the r/offmychest thread under the username @lostandcheatedon8, the man titled his post ‘I recorded my wife cheating on me and I can’t stop watching it’.
He then explained how his life quickly turned upside down, as he shared: “A couple weeks ago I decided I wanted to surprise my wife with a kid-free night out.
“My parents live about an hour and a half away from us and I arranged for the kids to stay with them for the weekend.
“Usually, when I go to my parents I am gone until later in the evening. We spend all day there and leave around dinner time.
“This time, I was dropping the kids off and immediately going home so I could surprise my wife and we could go out as soon as possible.
“I had made reservations at a nice restaurant and was hoping to go to a few places for some drinks first.
“I left at 8:30am and was back in our housing plan before 12:30pm. As I pulled onto my street I saw a truck parked in front of my house. I did not recognize it.
“I assumed it was someone seeing the neighbours though because it’s not that unusual for someone to park in front of our house.
“I parked a few houses away thinking I would sneak into the house and surprise my wife instead of pulling in the driveway and going into the garage.”
The man then sneaked through his home through the basement, but was left stunned to hear, and see, his wife with another man.
He continued: “I went in through a basement door. I was as quiet as possible but as soon as I walked in I heard her making sounds from the floor above.
“When I first heard it I thought she was just by herself, maybe having some personal time.
“I didn’t want to interrupt her privacy and embarrass her so I was going to go back to my car and just go in the garage so she would know I was home.
“Then I heard a man’s voice. I immediately felt sick. My heart felt like it was going to explode out of my chest.
I felt like I could just scream at any moment but for some reason I just froze completely. This went on for several minutes
Reddit poster
“It is hard to describe how I felt in this moment. I decided to go upstairs. I had no desire to confront them, I just wanted to see what was going on.
“I moved slowly and quietly and went up the stairs. The door was halfway open.
“The kitchen was empty but I could tell they were in the living room. It was obvious what was going on at this point by the sounds.”
Clearly in disbelief, the man took out his phone to record the affair, as he added: “There was no way for me to look in the living room without them seeing me. I pulled out my phone and opened my camera app. I put my phone just around the corner of a wall.
“This part is so hard to write. I could see my wife with a man I didn’t recognise.
“I won’t go into detail on what they were doing but I think you can figure it out.
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“I started recording it, I was thinking that I needed a record of it for whatever I decided to do in the future. I just stood there in my kitchen, watching this all unfold on my phone screen.
“I felt like I could just scream at any moment but for some reason I just froze completely. This went on for several minutes.
“She finally jumped off of him and made a comment about going to the bedroom and they went upstairs. She even made a comment about how much time they had left.”
Not only did he record the wrongdoing to gather evidence, but he also took a look in the stranger’s wallet too.
The father confessed: “I walked into the living room and found the guy’s pants. I took his wallet out and took pictures of his driver’s licence.
“I know his name and his address now. I’ve never met him. I have no idea how my wife knows him.
“I left the house the same way I entered. I went back to my car and cried like the pathetic man I am.
“I decided to watch the video to make sure it was recorded. I watched it all.
“I’ll spare the details but I sat in my car for at least half an hour. I couldn’t drive to my parents and get the kids as I would have to explain why.
“I decided that I would pull in the driveway, open the garage, and just pretend like I was there to surprise her.”
The dad then went back into the house, but explained that he didn’t confront his wife on her actions.
Not only this, but his mischievous wife even then attempted to seduce him.
I could faintly see the guy sneaking downstairs and going to the basement stairs but I didn’t say or do anything
Reddit poster
He expressed: “I took my time getting into the house. I made a lot of noise. When I saw her she was very flustered asking me why I was home, etc. She was in a robe and said she was just getting ready for a bath.
“I told her about my plans and she seemed excited. She poured us both a glass of wine and said we should pregame before getting ready.
“I don’t think I talked much really. She took me into the living room. I’m not proud of what I let happen.
“I could faintly see the guy sneaking downstairs and going to the basement stairs but I didn’t say or do anything, I just let my wife continue doing what she was doing to me.”
But now, weeks later, the father has revealed that he has watched his secretly-recorded video at least 10 times a day.
I feel like I’ve watched it at least 10 times a day since I caught them
Reddit poster
He confessed: “Since that day, I have watched the video of her repeatedly. I can’t bring myself to make any decisions on what I should do next.
“She seems to know something is wrong with me because she’s asked a few times if I’m ok.
“I feel worthless and every time I hit a low point I watch that video again.
“I feel like I’ve watched it at least 10 times a day since I caught them.”
Reddit users were left gobsmacked by the man’s confession and quickly flocked to the comments to share their advice and guidance.
Not only were many extremely sympathetic for the father, but others encouraged him to talk to a lawyer and prepare for a divorce.
Please talk to a lawyer and go through divorce proceedings
Reddit user
One person said: “I’m so sorry this happened to you. That was very traumatic. Do you have friends or family you can talk to?”
Another added: “It’s time to stop feeling down and time to start taking action. Protecting you and your kids is what is most important. Go talk to a lawyer immediately.”
A third commented: “If you haven’t told her yet I suggest you talk to a lawyer first and prepare the divorce.”
Meanwhile, someone else advised: “Please talk to a lawyer and go through divorce proceedings.
“For the love of God, get your ducks in a row before doing this (make multiple copies of said video so there’s no way she can tamper with it) and DO NOT let her convince you to “work things out”.
“She’ll throw the book of excuses at you – “this was the only time” “but the kids”. Ignore all of that and get out while you can.”
