A MAN has revealed that he has been married for 13 years, but has caught his wife being unfaithful.
The father confessed that not only is his wife sending flirty texts, but it’s to a woman.
Confused by the lesbian affair and what to do about the situation, the anonymous man took to social media to share his confession.
Posting on Reddit on the r/straightspouses thread, the 35-year-old man titled his post ‘My wife is having a lesbian affair.’
Writing under the username @brilliant_Loquat3980, he then confirmed that it was a new perfume that gave away his 36-year-old wife’s infidelity.
To give some context on his relationship, he said: “We started dating in October of 2008 and married in April of 2011.
“We have a son, five, who is the center of our entire world.
“I love the two of them more than anything in the world. We have had our ups and downs in our marriage. In 2017 we were separated for eight months when she came out as bisexual and we agreed we needed some time to ourselves.
“We were able to work it out and have been happy since. We both work jobs with varying hours and with mine I can be gone months at a time.
“In February, one of her old friends from college got a job working with my wife. One evening we went out for drinks to celebrate.
“Ever since my wife will spend hours in the corner laughing and texting her friend.”
The man explained that whilst the couple used to spend regular quality time together, this has since stopped.
He continued: “Ever since we started dating we would set aside one night a month for just the two of us, we would watch a movie, have dinner and have sex and cuddle all night.
“When we got married it moved to once a week. We haven’t done that since June and whenever I ask she says she doesn’t feel like it and goes back to texting her friend.”
And things quickly took a turn when he went on a trip with work, as he added: “In August I went on a two week business trip and when I called the first weekend I was gone she didn’t answer.
“I called our neighbour to watch our house when she wasn’t home and he said his wife had our son and my wife went out for the evening with her friend.
I watched for 20 minutes as they sexted saying I love you’s, miss you’s, flirting and down right sexting
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“In October I was cleaning in our room and noticed a new perfume smell that I knew wasn’t my wife’s but smelled like the one her friend uses. It was in our bed on my pillow.
“I asked my wife and she said she tried a new one for a couple of nights. In the 12 years I’ve known her she’s never once tried a new one.”
Then, the man explained how he got his proof, as he explained: “Three nights ago I got confirmation. She was on the phone with her boss and went to put our son to bed when her phone buzzed and she asked me to answer it.
“It was a text from her friend in her underwear on a bed saying I love you and miss you. I closed the phone and went to bed.
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“Wife keeps a spare iPad on her night stand in case of emergencies so we both can use it. I watched for 20 minutes as they sexted saying I love you’s, miss you’s, flirting and down right sexting.
“When she came to bed she asked me if I was alright and if I wanted to have sex. I said I was fine and didn’t want to.
“Ever since I’ve been avoiding her and not talking to her. I’ve sent screenshots of the conversation to my phone when she was in the shower and deleted it from our messages.
“I’m planning on Friday when my sister is in town to confront her. I don’t know what to do I want to make it work with her since I love her but this is unacceptable. I don’t know what to do.”
Reddit users were left open-mouthed by the man’s claims and flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
That liar ain’t worth it. Find an escape plan
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One person said: “I’m so sorry you’ve found yourself here. I went through something similar recently with my husband of 12 years.
“At first he labelled himself bisexual but in the end admitted he’s gay. Not saying that’s the case with your wife but it is a pattern I’ve seen often in forums like this one.
“Take good care of yourself! Sending virtual hugs.”
Another added: “I’m really sorry to hear that. Maybe it’s just a coincidence but I keep hearing stories about people originally coming out as “bi” then all of a sudden they are actually gay.
“It’s almost like it’s a stepping stone or something or easier than just accepting the full truth.”
A third commented: “That liar ain’t worth it. Find an escape plan. We need an update.”
