A WOMAN says she was left “heartbroken” and “shattered” after discovering the shocking reason her underwear was getting so loose.
It all began “a few months ago” when she started to realise that her thongs and knickers were “getting looser and looser”.
“I thought it was because I had kept them for too long and that maybe it was time for me to shop for new ones,” she added in the post on Reddit.
Then she came home another night to see her “dresses rearranged in the closet”.
“Also, the contents of my underwear drawer were messed about,” she added.
When it happened again, she asked her husband if he had gone through her things, which he denied and “suggested that I was being overworked”.
“The funny bit is, I actually believed him,” she sighed.
When it happened again a month later, her “thongs were strewn in the bottom of the wardrobe”.
“It was as if someone threw them there in a hurry to avoid being caught,” she continued.
“My first thought was that some pervert had gained access to our home and was either trying to steal my underwear or worse.”
When she asked her husband if he could work from home in the living room, or asked if he could put up some security cameras, he refused, saying it was “all my fault”.
“He said I was overworked to the point of exhaustion and recommended I take a few days off and visit my family,” she wrote.
However, when she put on one of her thongs the next day, it was “super loose”, and she then had “no doubt” that “someone was stretching them out”.
While she was certain that her husband would “gaslight” her if she asked, she decided to take matters upon herself to find out what was going on.
She then got a “motion activated spy camera”, and put it at eye level in the wardrobe, covering it with some dresses and going to work.
While there were initially a couple of quiet days, the camera then activated one day and she was able to see “what was going on”.
She then saw one of her husband’s work colleagues, who she called Kayleigh in the post, in her bedroom.
“She walked into the bedroom fully nude, rummaged through my drawer, picked out a few pieces, and tried them all on before selecting one and leaving the bedroom,” she wrote.
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“I could not believe what I just saw!”
When she confronted her husband with the footage, he started “stuttering and mumbling and finally admitting to an affair”.
“He said that she did things I was not okay with,” she said, before revealing that he also claimed Kayleigh’s husband knew about and was okay with the affair, as he allows her to sleep with whomever she wants.
After a huge row, she told her husband she wanted “a separation followed by a divorce”.
“He then went completely berserk, yelling at the top of his voice, and began throwing things about,” she wrote.
“He even threw his phone at me and it missed me by inches.
“I screamed and ran to our bedroom and locked the door.”
Once he’d left, she called her mum, and got her racing to hers, at which point they packed up her stuff and left.
“I am heartbroken, shattered, and frightened,” she concluded.
“What a f**ked up day. What a f**ked up life too.
“I cannot believe I gave this cheat the best years of my life.”
