DEAR DEIDRE: My lover and I met when I sold him a gorgeous vintage dress for his wife.
He’s great in bed but I feel guilty about his wife who now visits my shop regularly and is always so lovely.
I’m 30 and I married my husband at 26. He runs his own business and he encouraged me to open a vintage clothing boutique.
My husband is 39 and travels a lot. I spend days alone but the shop keeps me out of trouble – that was until my lover turned up five months ago.
He was handsome, funny, and mocked himself for not knowing a thing about women’s clothes and I was immediately drawn to him.
He’d come in looking for a gift for his wife. He explained, “It’s her birthday tomorrow. She loves these sorts of clothes.”
Every problem gets a personal reply from one of our trained counsellors.
Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you.
You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page or email us at:
deardeidre@the-sun.co.uk
I pulled out a beautiful swing dress which he bought and the next week he returned saying, “She was absolutely thrilled” and he invited me for a drink to say thanks.
I should have left well alone but my husband was in Germany so I thought it would be nice to do something different.
He told me he was 36. You could have cut the sexual tension with a knife when we met in the nearby bar.
In the cab on the way home, he asked if he could come in then he kissed me. I felt so alive for the first time in a long time.
We had sex and since then he’s been warming my bed every time my husband is away.
I feel guilty for my lover’s wife though – she seems like someone who could have been a friend.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: You’re right to feel bad about this man’s wife, but what about your own husband?
This man can see how financially stable you are with your husband. You’re a safe bet as lovers go. You’re unlikely to make life complicated for him.
Don’t settle for a lonely marriage for the sake of financial security. If you still love your husband, tell him how sad you feel.
Could he cut down on travelling or could you employ somebody in your shop so that you could travel with him now and then?
Don’t settle for no-strings sex with this charming man because sooner or later someone is going to get really hurt.
My support pack called Relationship MOT will help you and explains where to find professional, emotional support.
