DEAR DEIDRE: MY badminton partner and I make a great pair on the court . . . and have amazing sex in the bedroom.
But his wife became suspicious and he has blanked me, leaving me feeling abandoned.
I have known him for a number of years but after we were paired on court for the mixed doubles, the attraction between us grew.
His wife used to play but she had given up after hurting her back.
I’m a 32-year-old female. I’m engaged and my fiancé is 34. We have been together for three years.
This man is 44. We had a kiss at our annual dinner when we went up to collect a club award.
Admittedly it was only a fleeting peck on the cheek but I knew then I wanted more.
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One night at the end of a game I asked if he could stay for a drink.
He agreed and from then on we began texting every day about our game.
Some time later we went to a club competition and ended up kissing in the changing rooms. It was so passionate. I wanted more and I hoped he did too. It could have led to more then, but I stopped it.
The same thing happened a few weeks later at a tournament. We started messaging about more than badminton. The messages were flirty and we both knew what we wanted.
We have since met in a hotel and had awesome sex. We even got fruity in his car when we were leaving.
The day after, he said his wife was becoming suspicious so we’ve cooled it. I was so disappointed.
He has missed practice for the past fortnight and I haven’t heard from him for weeks. I haven’t messaged him either. I don’t know what to do next.
DEIDRE SAYS: So far no one has got hurt but your lover realises that with a suspicious wife, this can’t go on.
This man may genuinely be fond of you as well as fancy you, but he has no intention of leaving his wife.
Focus your energies on your relationship with your fiancé. What has gone wrong there to make this betrayal possible?
Getting married is an important life decision. Is he a lovely guy but unimaginative sexually?
If that’s the problem, show him what turns you on. If you are not happy with him, then you must walk away before starting another relationship.
