EVERYBODY has different parenting styles when it comes to raising their kids.
Some like to be strict and others may like to take a more laid back approach.
Like Bernie Watkins, she has revealed her trick to why her kids share such a close bond with each other.
The single mum, 49, still shares a bed with her two pre-teen kids and has co-slept with her children since they were born and still does a decade later.
Bernie said Frankie, 10, and Caden, 12, both have their own rooms and beds but have always opted to share her king-sized one.
Bernie, who lives in Grenada, Spain, but is originally from Childwall, Liverpool, claims it’s “totally natural” and the kids have never wanted to stop.
In fact, Bernie said bedtime is the best part of their days – because they can all snuggle up and have a chat before falling asleep side by side.
The freelance copywriter said: “We have always been in bed together – right from when they were newborns and I didn’t want to leave them in a different room on their own.
“They can stop when they want and have their own rooms but have always preferred to sleep with me.
“We’re a very close cuddly family so it’s perfect for us – and getting into bed at night is a lovely part of our days.
“We don’t normally share mealtimes so bedtime is our time to all be together and have a cuddle and talk about anything.
“People told me they would grow up to be clingy and dependent if we kept sharing but they’re the total opposite.”
Bernie shared a bed with her children as soon as they were born to make breastfeeding easier.
Despite warnings that this can lead to accidental suffocation of newborns, she was “never concerned about that.”
She said: “I am a light sleeper so I always knew where they were in the bed – as soon as they stirred I would wake up.
“For me it felt wrong to take a tiny baby and leave them in another room alone.
“I was always set on co-sleeping from birth.”
As the children grew up, they simply never left – and would use their cosy bedtimes as an opportunity to spend quality time together.
Bernie said they light candles, play relaxing music and have discussions with no taboo subjects.
I was always set on co-sleeping from birth
Bernie Watkins, 49
The setup sees them all on one king-sized bed frame but with two mattresses and duvets – a double for Bernie and Frankie, and a single for Caden because he moves a lot at night.
Allowing her children to share a bed with her at night is something Bernie will “never want to give up.”
She said: “I believe it’s important to have that contact. It’s really understated but it means a lot to us.”
Bernie doesn’t care what others think about it – and says while others might see it as unusual, it works well for them.
“I can understand why people say it’s weird because in England it’s not the norm,” she said.
“I guess everyone is entitled to their own opinion.”
She said even if her children have bickered all day, all their issues are resolved by the nighttime when everyone gets tucked in and ready to rest – meaning the sibling bond is very strong.
Bernie feels it’s how she has managed to maintain such a close relationship with her children.
She said: “For us, it’s the most normal thing in the world and none of us want to stop.
“I wish other people wouldn’t make comments or put barriers up around co-sleeping – people make an automatic judgement.
“It’s the reason we have such a close bond.”
