DEAR DEIDRE: I REALLY like my wife, but I’m not sure I love her any more. Is it really possible to get close again?
I’m 45, she’s 39 and we’ve been married 15 years.
I know relationships have their ups and downs, but it really seems like we have hit a dead end.
Jobs, kids and an ongoing house renovation have caused us both stress over the years, and so our sex life gradually became less of a priority.
But now, I genuinely can’t remember the last time we even cuddled in bed.
Plus we seem to have run out of things to talk about.
At dinner, if we’re not discussing the kids and their schedules, we sit across from each other in silence.
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I know I don’t want a divorce.
It’s not like we hate each other, or argue constantly, we just need to fall back in love.
DEIDRE SAYS: In most marriages, there comes a point where your relationship becomes less of a priority.
The key to bringing the spark back is changing this.
Schedule a regular date night, and if you’re worried about slipping into the habit of only ever talking about the kids and work, do an activity date instead.
For example, try a new sport or head to an exhibition.
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But also make time to be intimate. That doesn’t have to mean sex – a hug, or giving each other a massage is a great way to build physical closeness.
I’m also sending you my support pack Looking After Your Relationship to help.
