EVERYONE talks about when to run after a first date, but don’t highlight the good signs nearly as much.
Luckily, dating and relationship coach Kevin Thibodeaux has revealed some of the top green flags to look for when on a first date.
Thibodeaux, founder of From Casual to Serious, gave some examples of how to know when your date might have the potential to become your beau.
“They do what they say they’re gonna do. They show up on time and they show up appropriately for the occasion,” Thibodeaux stated.
It’s not uncommon for a date to completely ghost their date, or show up super late disregarding their date’s schedule.
And when someone knows how to manage their time, they are probably efficient in other areas of life and will likely make a good partner.
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Not coming into the date with a preconceived notion is important, says Thibodeaux.
Just going in and being intentional about learning about your date is of utmost importance. Namely, learning about who they are, where they are in life, and where they’re headed.
If your date is able to actively listen to you and isn’t just spewing questions back to back, you can rest assured you’re on the right track.
Someone who is actively focusing on now and the future are good signs to look out for on a first date. Focussing on the past is not necessarily bad, but it’s not okay if your date dwells on it.
“I know many clients of mine and people I’ve met don’t wanna hear about exes or ex relationships,” Thibodeaux explained.
What’s of utmost importance is your date being intentional about learning where you are and where you’re going.
“People think coaches have all the answers and by definition, I don’t,” Thibodeaux stated.
He continued: “There is no dating bible. There is no PHD in dating.”
Despite not having all the answers, according to Thibodeaux, the best thing you could do is trust your intuition.
“That inner voice that’s telling you this is not all its cracked up to be, doesn’t align with where we’re headed. It’s okay to trust it and say you’re right girl, let me walk away.”
If you’re good on green flags and wondering how to perfect your dating profile, dating expert Frances Keller detailed the things you need to put on your profile to get a date.
For starters, Keller suggested filling out your entire profile and not leaving anything blank, making sure to not forget to opt for quality over quantity in the process. Thoughtful responses are key here.
A balanced bio is super important as well. While people want to know about you, they would also like to be a part of the equation.
Keller stated that you shouldn’t just focus on yourself.
She said: “Research shows that the magic formula in a profile is speak 70% about yourself and 30% about the other person.
“In the last 30% do not list all the things you want in a partner. Instead, focus on the type of person you are looking for and the values they possess. For example, ‘looking for someone who values family and being active’ or ‘looking for someone to climb mountains with’.”
Keller also suggested giving extra attention to your photos.
She stated: “Photos are 90% of the profile.
“Men are much more visual than us and therefore look at profiles differently. They are extremely focused on photos.
“A person makes up their mind about you in one 40th of a second so your pictures must be good.
“No selfies, no pouting, no sunglasses, no hats. Don’t hide your face, it makes you look dishonest.
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“Smile, it will help you stand out and look trustworthy. Taking them in natural light is the most flattering. Use no filters, you are good enough as you are.
“If you have a pet pose with them as these pictures get more likes. They show you can love another being and that it loves you.”
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