DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I wrote to you last year, tears were streaming down my face.
My wife had died suddenly, collapsing in the back garden when she went to water the plants.
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She was only 60 and we had been married for 30 years. I’m 62.
I didn’t think I could ever get over the shock and grief of losing her.
What hurt most was that I didn’t get to say goodbye.
I kept having visions of her, sitting with me. And each time I realised I was hallucinating, it was like losing her again.
You sent me your support pack about grief and reassured me that I would learn to live with the pain of losing her in time, and that my life could go on.
You also advised me to see my GP because you felt I was suffering from PTSD.
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Since I wrote to you, things have improved. The visions have stopped and I’m taking small steps to restart my life, such as joining a local choir.
Without your help, Deidre, I’d still be in a very desperate place.
DEIDRE SAYS: You just needed to realise you weren’t alone, and that while your life would never be the same, you could learn to enjoy it again.
I’m glad to have helped.
