DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE I lost the use of one leg, my marriage has gone down the pan.
My husband tries to wrap me in cotton wool, saying what I can and can’t do. It’s suffocating.
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We’ve been married for 20 years. I’m 47 and he’s 45.
I came off my motorbike after hitting some ice and had a below-knee amputation.
My husband tries to help but we end up arguing if I try to do anything alone.
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I used to be a strong, independent woman but now I’ve had to give up work and everything is such a battle.
He has such a negative outlook when I’m trying to be positive. It brings me down.
DEIDRE SAYS: While everyone focused on you and your rehabilitation, your husband was suffering in silence.
He now feels it is his duty to protect you but it is spoiling your relationship.
Have an honest talk, explaining that you love him but will try to regain your independence as best you can.
Be kind but clear: If you want his help, you will ask.
The Limbless Association (limbless-association.org, 0800 644 0185) can give support. Your husband might enjoy a new challenge – fundraising for them, say.
