A SEX expert has revealed the one type of man who should never be trusted and you should steer clear of at all costs.
Nadia Bokody, from Australia, wrote for News.com.au that she had received an “unnerving” message from a man this week – who was exactly the man to avoid.
She explained: “It was from a man who, on the surface at least, appeared to be an average reader.
“He mentioned he’d read my work and enjoyed it, before continuing on to express something unnerving.”
She said the man had said he had seen one of her Instagram posts, where she had said: “Maybe she’s born with it, maybe she just has a good vibrator.”
The man wrote: “Don’t you understand how men will respond to that? Do you not understand the hypocrisy?
“I am an intelligent guy and I understand the humour, but many others do not see the humour, they only see you objectifying yourself and encouraging their sexual advances.”
Nadia was taken aback by the message, and continued in her column: “I was struck by the fact his profile revealed his full name, and pictures of what appeared to be a wife and daughter.
“He didn’t fit the cliche of the typical male troll whining impotently from behind a faceless account.
“And for this reason, I found the message all the more unsettling. Because, in my experience, it’s men like this who are the most dangerous to women.
In truth, the answer to keeping women safe from sexual harassment doesn’t lie with women no longer making jokes about sex or smiling in Instagram posts.
Nadia Bokody
“Men like this will always insist they can’t possibly be misogynists. Misogynists don’t have wives and daughters!
“No … they LOVVVE women. They’re ‘one of the good guys’, they’ll assert.
“They can even find the humour in women’s jokes! (Because they’re ‘intelligent’, you know?) “But they also seem to implicitly understand the danger men pose to women in a way only a man who has harmed women before can.
“More often than not, it’s these same men who’ll warn their daughters about boys.
“They are the fathers who will brag about greeting their daughters’ boyfriends at the door with baseball bats, because they believe boys can’t be expected to be held responsible for what they do when they’re around girls.
“And who’ll condition their daughters to believe there’s a certain way of dressing and acting around men – a certain amount of alcohol that can be consumed around them, and a certain way of dancing around them – that will keep them safe (it won’t).
“In truth, the answer to keeping women safe from sexual harassment doesn’t lie with women no longer making jokes about sex or smiling in Instagram posts (or with any of the other terrible advice men have given us on how to protect ourselves from them).
Men like this will always insist they can’t possibly be misogynists. Misogynists don’t have wives and daughters!
Nadia Bokody
“It’s in teaching boys and men to conceptualise women as fully autonomous human beings who don’t exist for the purpose of decorating their worlds.”
She concluded that the vibrator post was “ironically” one of the first she had posted without “Facetuning out my scars.”
Nadia added: “It captured a moment of pure joy, at a time I was abandoning that shame and reclaiming my body and the pleasure it could feel.
“And no amount of unsolicited feedback from men can ever take that away from me.”
Previously, Nadia revealed how long sex should really last – and the answer may shock you.
And Nadia revealed the common lie told in the bedroom which is ‘hurting women’.
Meanwhile, a sexpert shared the four mistakes we’re all making in the bedroom and why you need to focus on ‘afterplay’.
