DEAR DEIDRE: I TOLD my girlfriend I will accept her daughter but will never love her. My girlfriend cheated on me a year ago and got pregnant. We agreed she’d have the baby adopted but that fell through in the pandemic and she’s now bonded with her. I’m 31 and she is 29. We’ve been […]
DEAR DEIDRE: I TOLD my girlfriend I will accept her daughter but will never love her.
My girlfriend cheated on me a year ago and got pregnant.
We agreed she’d have the baby adopted but that fell through in the pandemic and she’s now bonded with her.
I’m 31 and she is 29. We’ve been together for three years.
She has a son, who’s five, from a past relationship. I adore him and accept him as my own.
He thinks of me as Dad as he doesn’t know his biological father.
My girlfriend knows she will have to explain to the kids why I love the son and not the daughter.
Is that unfair?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You know deep down her baby daughter is innocent and deserves to be loved and wanted too.
I hope you soon start to see her as a little person in her own right and grow to love her.
To shut her out emotionally would be so damaging for her.
The real problem is that you haven’t forgiven your girlfriend for cheating.
Try to talk constructively together about what led to it and how you can heal your relationship.
My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help.
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