DEAR DEIDRE: I’M having great sex with my brother’s girlfriend. It’s too good to stop but my brother almost caught us the other day and I know it would blow the family apart if anyone knew.
My brother and I share a house which our dad owns and says will be ours one day. My brother is 28 and runs a bakery business for Dad. I am 23 and finishing a degree in business studies.
When lockdown arrived my studies went online but my brother got busier than ever as they started supplying all sorts of extra local food outlets such as farm shops. It’s not easy with all the distancing precautions, etc, and the pressure really got to him.
His girlfriend is 26 and they met through work — he supplied a restaurant where she worked until she was furloughed. They didn’t live together, but when lockdown started she suggested she move in with us so she could cook for us both.
He thinks it’s worked brilliantly — but he has no idea what his girlfriend and I get up to while he’s out. Nothing happened for the first month but my brother started getting snappy, especially with his girlfriend.
He drove off in a temper one day and I found her crying. He had been nasty about what she wanted to cook for us that evening. She poured her heart out to me — all his horrible remarks, paying her no attention, never saying he loved her when she said it to him, never wanting to have sex which was making her feel ugly.
I was cuddling her by this point, saying: “Never mind, I think you’re gorgeous” and kissing her. She turned to me and next we were having sex.
Afterwards we agreed it’s my brother she loves but it was OK to find comfort in one another as long as it’s our secret. We’ve carried on having regular sex and my brother almost caught us last week when he turned back on his way into work to pick up some tablets for a headache.
He has since realised that he was taking out his stress on his girlfriend so he is more considerate with her now, but she and I have got into the habit of having sex.
My brother, my mum and dad would be beside themselves if they knew, but it’s a big thing to give up when everything else seems to be going downhill for me — university life, job prospects and social life.
DEIDRE SAYS: I know things feel tough right now but nothing like as bad as it will feel when you and your brother’s girlfriend get caught.
You can do this. Tell her the sex must stop and avoid each other around the house as much as possible.
I imagine she’s going back to work soon so it would be best if she moved home if possible.
You can cook for your brother. Focus instead on your own life and future. There will be opportunities but you need to be ready to grab them.
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