DEAR DEIDRE: RECENTLY my grandad died, leaving half of his estate to me and half to my dad, who is furious not to have it all.
It was just me and my dad when I was growing up because my mum had mental health problems. He worked so I spent much of the time with my grandparents.
My grandma sadly died five years ago and I cannot believe the way my dad is reacting to Grandad’s will. I think he is being greedy and selfish.
We had a huge row recently and now we are not speaking. It is like my own dad is jealous of me.
I’m a grown woman of 33 but I don’t know what to do.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your dad may be jealous and disappointed but your grandad was entitled to make his own choice.
His anger may also be mixed up with grief at losing his last surviving parent. It can feel very threatening.
My e-leaflet Coping With Bereavement could help.
Try not to be drawn into getting angry. Tell your dad how sorry you are to be at loggerheads at this sad time – but do not feel pressured to give any of your inheritance to your dad. Respect your grandad’s wishes.
