DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend’s female friend texts me abusively but he just seems to accept it. They’ve known each other since school and both work at a supermarket. They are both 27 and I’m 25. They used to go bowling with a group from work one evening a week. The bowling alley is shut because […]
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend’s female friend texts me abusively but he just seems to accept it.
They’ve known each other since school and both work at a supermarket. They are both 27 and I’m 25.
They used to go bowling with a group from work one evening a week. The bowling alley is shut because of coronavirus but she wanted my boyfriend to see her after work anyway, even if they just went for a walk.
I said it was a bad idea due to social-distancing rules. He told her and she went off on one, then texted me loads of abuse – as she has before.
The other day he and I rowed because he was late back from work and it turned out he had been with her.
It’s not like she’s his only friend – he has loads – and she clearly relies on him too much.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Maybe he likes the idea of two women fighting over him but there is no way he should accept a friend texting you abuse.
Maybe you have been avoiding confronting him because you fear the outcome, but you can’t be happy with a guy who puts you so low on his priorities.
Tell him you’re either No1 or you two are over.
