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DEAR DEIDRE: I AM having sex with an amazing girl who is also my best pal. I’ve fallen in love with her but I’m frightened of losing her.
I am 31 and she’s 26. We met through our first jobs. We don’t work together now but spent a lot of time together until social distancing.
We had sex a few times and she’s everything I want in a girl – with a heart of gold – but has been through some bad relationship stuff.
We FaceTime every evening. She says she loves me to bits and if she ever settled down, it would be with someone like me.
But she’s not ready just now. She says she gets loving feelings with me but is holding them back. I don’t know how to take that or what to do.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Being “friends with benefits” is a dangerous place to be if you really want a committed relationship. You stand to get hurt.
Your friend knows you love her and want more. Say you must give her the space to decide if she wants more too.
You can still be friends and enjoy FaceTime chats but don’t let them turn sexual unless, or until, she feels she is ready for a relationship with you.