DEAR DEIDRE: FOR nearly a year I have been chatting to a guy I met online – and I thought we had a real connection.
He suggested we meet for a date in a town halfway between us and he booked a room in a nice hotel. I’m 31 and he’s 35. I thought that was very romantic.
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We had dinner and he treated me to that too before we went up to the room.
He was very eager and we had sex several times, which was OK but a bit rushed.
What hurt though was that he disappeared about 3am, taking all his stuff with him.
I feel I’ve been used, that sex was all he wanted me for.
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m afraid that talking online just isn’t the same as regularly meeting up for real.
People can portray themselves how they want online but reveal their true identity in the flesh.
This guy has used you, I’m afraid.
He clearly doesn’t want a serious relationship.
If you are ready to try making friends face to face, my e-leaflet Widening Your Social Scene has lots of ideas.
