DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend found a hotel receipt for a double room and he can’t forget about it.
Our relationship developed quickly. We moved in together after two months.
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I am 24, he is 25. I had to go on a course from work a few weeks later and they booked me a double room as the hotel had no singles.
A few days later my boyfriend found the receipt in my work papers.
He says he believes that I didn’t cheat but it has brought back memories of an ex who did.
This is now causing problems in bed.
We used to have sex daily, now it’s barely once a fortnight.
I have spoken to him about it and he says every time he tries to have sex, he remembers the hotel receipt and it puts him off.
I do miss the intimacy as that’s the only time he shows affection.
DEIDRE SAYS: Just to be clear spell it out to him that the hotel has no single rooms – which they can confirm.
But the real issue is that he hasn’t got over his ex cheating.
Get him to write a list of all the ways you differ from that ex and insist he read it daily.
Keep telling him how special he is to you and initiate lots of kissing and cuddles.
If he stays stuck, insist he get counselling help to move on.
