DEAR DEIDRE: A FAMILY feud has erupted following my brother’s wedding. I asked my husband’s brother and his family to sit at the back of the room while the bride and groom made their entrance and cut their cake.
This wedding was planned for months down to the last detail but other people turned up at the reception who’d not been invited.
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They sat at the table reserved for my brother-in-law, his wife and kids but I didn’t want to cause a scene by moving them as the bride and groom entered.
I explained to my husband’s brother and my sister-in-law that it was just for a short time – which is what happened — but my husband and his mum went ballistic at home.
They said my family disrespected theirs and they felt insulted.
They were already seated at the top table and couldn’t see what was going on at the back of the room. I’m 29 and my husband is 30.
I am not surprised by my mother-in-law’s reaction, as she can be hot-headed.
But for my husband to react this way shocked me.
They are close and she gets him fired up but I am upset they think I did this deliberately.
DEIDRE SAYS: There is something about weddings that so often seems to wind everyone up.
Were your brother-in-law and his wife themselves upset, or did they understand?
He could be the best person to tell his mum that she is over-reacting.
Have a heart to heart with your husband.
Say you realise he is sensitive to his mother’s feelings but be firm that you were simply being practical in a tricky situation.
You have nothing to apologise for and everyone should move on.
