DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend sleeps with other men then insists he isn’t gay and it is just a phase.
I am a woman of 24, he is 26 and we have been together for four years. We have had some great times together and I love him so much.
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Each time this happens, he comes back after a few weeks swearing he isn’t gay.
He was sexually abused by another boy when he was young and believes this explains the pattern.
I’ve not texted him back or answered his call this time, though – but I know he wants us to stay friends.
Do I take him back?
I am his only friend and don’t want him to be alone but am sick of us going around in circles in our relationship.
DEIDRE SAYS: It will hurt you trying to be friends with your boyfriend when you love him and want to be in a faithful relationship that he can’t commit to.
Being bisexual doesn’t justify cheating but it may be possible for your boyfriend to break this pattern if he gets understanding for the abuse he suffered when young.
My free e-leaflet, Abused As A Child?, can help him find the support he needs.
