DEAR DEIDRE: I AM never in the mood for sex. When I go to bed, I am so tired I just want to sleep. I am 30, my husband is 29 and we have been married for two years. We have two great kids, aged six and four, who are always on the go. I work […]
DEAR DEIDRE: I AM never in the mood for sex. When I go to bed, I am so tired I just want to sleep.
I am 30, my husband is 29 and we have been married for two years. We have two great kids, aged six and four, who are always on the go.
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I work long shifts in a busy job and even if we have sex at the weekend, I find myself thinking of everything I need to get done.
My husband is very understanding but during sex I can’t let myself go, so I rarely orgasm.
DEIDRE SAYS: The stress hormones can play havoc with your emotional and physical wellbeing, while impacting on your sex hormones.
Agree with your husband you will aim for quality not quantity, foregoing sex on week nights but making time at the weekend.
Choose sex before an evening in front of the telly and focus on your husband’s touch and your responses.
Yoga or meditation would help you feel calmer.
And my e-leaflet, Orgasm For Women, explains more in that area.
