DEAR DEIDRE: WHILE my wife and I were celebrating our silver wedding in the Caribbean, I found sexy messages on her phone from another man. She was out swimming at the time. I am 55 and she is 47. We were arguing a lot because she was spending so much time down the pub and not […]
DEAR DEIDRE: WHILE my wife and I were celebrating our silver wedding in the Caribbean, I found sexy messages on her phone from another man.
She was out swimming at the time.
I am 55 and she is 47. We were arguing a lot because she was spending so much time down the pub and not getting back until 1am.
We talked and agreed to make a fresh effort, to renew our marriage vows and have this second honeymoon.
But she would take her phone with her even if she just went to the bathroom and always liked anything a particular guy posted on social media.
That’s why I felt driven to check her phone.
She insists the messages meant nothing, that she has now blocked him on her phone, and she’s stopped going to the pub. Should I trust her?
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DEIDRE SAYS: You love her, so it is worth trying.
Ask her what led to her interest in this other guy and how you can strengthen your marriage. My e-leaflet Your Relationship MOT can help.
It would make sense too that your phones should be open to one another.
If she has nothing to hide, that should not be a problem.
