DEAR DEIDRE: ACCORDING to my husband I’m too fat – and he doesn’t fancy me. I’m not denying I’m a big girl. I have put on six stone since we first got together. I now weigh 16 stone. Our sex life is non-existent. My husband doesn’t want to do foreplay because he says I ask […]
DEAR DEIDRE: ACCORDING to my husband I’m too fat – and he doesn’t fancy me.
I’m not denying I’m a big girl. I have put on six stone since we first got together. I now weigh 16 stone.
Our sex life is non-existent. My husband doesn’t want to do foreplay because he says I ask for it too often, so I’ve stopped asking.
Now nothing happens at all and he says he’s too old.
My husband is 53 and I’m 34.
We have been together for 15 years.
He does hug and kiss me.
How can he still love me but not want to be sexually active with me? I just don’t understand it.
Surely my weight shouldn’t affect him if he loves me. I am so confused.
I do want to lose weight. Not for him, for me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: So do lose that extra weight – not because of your husband’s comments but because it would be great for your wellbeing.
Ask your GP for an eating and exercise plan.
Men tend to feel defensive if they lose their sex drive and I wonder if your husband is saving face by attacking you. Tell him how hurt you are feeling.
Keep up the kissing and cuddles.
Try my e-leaflet on Reviving A Man’s Sex Drive.
