DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband’s cheating is difficult to deal with – but do I want to ruin my children and grandchildren’s lives by leaving him? I am in my sixties and we have been married for 38 years. He has had several affairs, all with the same woman, his first love. Each time I found out, […]
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband’s cheating is difficult to deal with – but do I want to ruin my children and grandchildren’s lives by leaving him?
I am in my sixties and we have been married for 38 years. He has had several affairs, all with the same woman, his first love.
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Each time I found out, he promised it was over and we carried on as normal.
He is sorry now, says he loves me and swears this was the last time. She is not well and he says he felt sorry for her.
I want to forgive and move on, but I am struggling. At the same time, I do not want to be on my own at my time of life.
DEIDRE SAYS: You will not ruin the children’s lives if you break up with their father. But I bet he is terrified of losing his standing in their eyes.
Tell him he has given you no reason to trust him. Saying sorry isn’t enough.
If you are to try one more time, he has to go for couple counselling. See relate.org.uk.
I hope you are finding support for yourself and not feeling bound to keep his dirty secret.
