DEAR DEIDRE: THE bullying son of my partner is threatening me with violence because I won’t sell our home. My partner is 86 and he has dementia. I am 81. We never married but have been together for 40 years. His son is 52 and has been to prison for violence. When my partner had his […]
DEAR DEIDRE: THE bullying son of my partner is threatening me with violence because I won’t sell our home.
My partner is 86 and he has dementia. I am 81.
We never married but have been together for 40 years. His son is 52 and has been to prison for violence.
When my partner had his Alzheimer’s diagnosis, his son appeared saying we should put the house on the market. He lives on benefits.
I said we can’t sell because I am his carer and it’s our home.
He said the money is his inheritance and if I don’t do as he says, he will really hurt me.
I can’t sleep. I feel sick all the time because of his threats. I have nobody to help me because my own son lives in South Africa.
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DEIDRE SAYS: To threaten you with violence is against the law, no matter who has rights over the partner’s house.
Tell his son you are reporting him to the police.
You may be able to organise getting lasting power of attorney for your partner’s affairs but in any event, you shouldn’t be evicted from your home while caring for him.
Find support through Action On Elder Abuse (elderabuse.org.uk, 0808 808 8141).
