DEAR DEIDRE: MY lover only contacts me when he wants to pleasure himself.
If I message him for a chat, he ignores me or turns the subject round to sex.
He has sent me photos of his penis and put pressure on me to send him nude photos of myself, but I have resisted.
I’m 28 and he’s 32. We met two years ago and had a brief affair. He went from being loving, funny and kind to cold and distant.
He dumped me by text after an argument. I deleted his number and moved on.
He got in touch six months later and I replied but it was the same as before.
When I told him the constant teasing got me down and I actually wanted to see him, I didn’t hear from him for months.
He sent a few messages last week. Like an idiot, I replied. I wish I hadn’t, as I can see the same pattern forming all over again.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t let this man mess you around like this again – you are worth much more.
Be firm that you aren’t going to respond to him again and block him.
He isn’t going to commit to a proper relationship, which is what you would really like. My e-leaflet on Moving On will help.
