DEAR DEIDRE: CAN you fall in love with someone instantly and still love them even when they let you down? I’m working a season in Austria in a ski lodge resort. I met this gorgeous guy in a bar the first week. I am a guy of 23 and he is 25. We clicked and everything […]
DEAR DEIDRE: CAN you fall in love with someone instantly and still love them even when they let you down?
I’m working a season in Austria in a ski lodge resort.
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I met this gorgeous guy in a bar the first week. I am a guy of 23 and he is 25. We clicked and everything was going good between us.
The next time we met I felt a real connection, but after the third night he got off with my friend. She told me they slept together. I was devastated.
When we next met, he asked me to get back with him and see how things went.
I told him I didn’t trust him.
He got miffed with me and walked off and then I found he’d blocked me off everything. I feel so sad about it all.
DEIDRE SAYS: You can feel instantly attracted to someone, but you have to get to know someone for real love to grow.
The scales fell from your eyes when you discovered he had slept with your friend and he showed his true colours by the uncaring way he reacted.
It is OK to feel sad short term but know you will recover and be wiser for the future.