DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE met the girl of my dreams but I don’t know whether to tell her about my sexual history. I have always been shy and I regret now not making the most of my youth to play the field. I have a very high sex drive so I made up for the lack […]
DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE met the girl of my dreams but I don’t know whether to tell her about my sexual history.
I have always been shy and I regret now not making the most of my youth to play the field.
I have a very high sex drive so I made up for the lack of action by sometimes visiting escorts.
I’d stopped that, though, before I met my current girlfriend. I am 36 and my girlfriend is 34.
We have been together for five months and have a great relationship.
I went for an STD test when we first met which came back clear. Should I tell her about this or just keep quiet?
I did used to watch porn a lot too but don’t feel the need to any more. She thinks I’m amazing in bed and I worry whether she wonders how I’m so experienced.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Most people in their mid-thirties will bring some sort of sexual history to a new relationship.
It’s great she thinks you’re amazing in bed and she must assume you gained that expertise somehow.
I don’t see the need for you to give her a full explanation of your past but don’t get sucked into telling lies either as that could come back to bite you.
