DEAR DEIDRE: I TOOK my husband back recently when he became homeless because his lover had left him, but he didn’t even buy me and the kids Christmas presents.
He left me three years ago for a woman he met at the pub, though we’d been together 11 years and our boys were then nine and seven. I am 34 now and he is 36.
He called me out of the blue two months ago saying he was homeless.
I felt sorry for him and allowed him to come back home, at first just to help him but after a while we became lovers.
But now I want to ask him to leave. Our kids hate him.
He’s selfish and acting as though he’s only with me until something better comes along.
It was the final straw when the kids and I had all taken the trouble to buy Christmas presents for him, but he hadn’t even bothered to buy anything for his sons.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Trust your instincts or you stand to get hurt all over again.
Either he changes his attitude, towards you and your sons, or he’ll have to leave.
Set a firm time limit – I’d say a month.
