DEAR DEIDRE: I’M fighting a constant battle with myself because I don’t know whether I’m straight, lesbian or bisexual.
I’m a girl of 24. I’ve had sex with guys and that’s been OK. I had a relationship with a girl in school but I was only 15 and nothing sexual happened. I think, if it had, I wouldn’t be asking myself these questions now.
I’ve met a guy on a dating website and I’ve been out with him twice. My friend asked if I’m attracted to him and I said yes.
Then she said: “Do you see yourself marrying a man?”
I thought about it and said: “I see myself marrying a man but being with a woman.”
Would I feel more into him if he was a different gender?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Many people are attracted to both sexes, especially when young. It’s not a case of sitting one side of the fence or the other, it is more of a sliding scale.
Don’t feel conflicted or worry about labelling yourself. See how this relationship develops.
There’s nothing wrong with varying the gender of your partners over time.
My e-leaflet on Bisexual Issues will help you think this through.
