DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE finding out the reason I have not got pregnant is because my husband has a low sperm count, I do not want him near me.
We are both 33, have been happily married for eight years and have a seven-year-old son.
I always wanted a big family and we have been trying for four years, in vain.
I had asked my husband to see the doctor but he had refused until now.
The only option, now, is IVF. We can afford it but I am so angry – I blamed myself for not getting pregnant and have been through hell, but all the time he was to blame.
It’s been a month since we saw the consultant and we have had sex only once. It was not enjoyable and I don’t know how we are going to get back from this.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband was probably scared of just such a result, poor man. I understand his delay was frustrating but try to show some compassion.
A fertility problem is no one’s fault. Leave aside the issue of getting pregnant temporarily and take time to reconnect as a couple.
Check advice service genesisresearchtrust.com/askrobert, as there may be alternatives to IVF.
