DEAR DEIDRE: IT has been five years since my wife died and I’ve met a girl – but I am a flop in bed.
I am 44. My wife and I loved going to our holiday apartment in Portugal.
I continued to go after I lost her to cancer.
I met a local girl in a bar there a year ago and we get on great. We took things slowly and only had sex after six months together, but I am a flop and lose my erection.
She says not to worry but she’s younger than me and I am scared she will get fed-up and leave me. I smoke and wonder if that’s the problem.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Maybe you feel you are betraying your wife by having sex with a new partner, but she would want you to be happy.
Smoking does affect circulation and can impact sexual performance – and health in general. See your GP for a check and make the effort to give up now.
My e-leaflets on Solving Erection Problems and Giving Up Smoking will help.
